Marriage
Counselling

A marriage older than a week, has reasons for divorce. A stitch in time saves NINE. This stitch is the ‘Marital Counselling’. Counselling, timely received & acted upon, helps prevent marriage conflicts/discords altogether; or handle them efficiently & successfully if they do occur.

Marriage counselling is an extension of the Premarital Counselling. It includes what has been dealt in detail in Premarital Counselling and therefore, it will be worthwhile reading Premarital Counselling first.

It will be pertinent to understand that Marital Counselling is not a quick fix, ready-made solution. In fact it provides no solution. Nor is it aimed at pronouncing which of the partners is at fault. It, as a matter of fact, is aimed at empowering the partners with the insight and thereby the capability, to address marriage concerns & crises on their own.

An effective counselling helps remove cloudiness of vision, blind spots and biases. It provides a conducive platform to the partners so that they are able to see clearly the grey areas, voice their differences in the open with egos unhinged, see each other’s perspective & resolve to resolve the differences. A good counselor is always able to delineate between the ‘intention’ & the ‘approach’, and convince his counselees about the same. More often than not, it is not the intention but the approach and ego which are the culprits of marital blues. The counselling helps in defining/redefining the value of relationship (Click Sex & Relationship and Relationship Counselling to read the mantras of a healthy relationship to develop a deep insight into the intricacies of human relationship). It drives home the importance of rising above ego & paying attention to ‘approach’. More often than believed, sexual incompatibility is the cause or the consequence of marriage disharmony. (Read Importance of sex and Chemistry of sex to know in detail about the relevance of sex in marriage & how to go about it.) Marriage Counselling addresses issues like importance of institution of marriage, consummation of marriage, fighting sexual monotony/boredom, enhancing sexual pleasure, mental & sexual incompatibility etc. It endeavors to hone the communication & perception skills, and to empower the partners with the capability to avoid/resolve marriage blues. And in case separation is unavoidable, counselling helps in making separation/divorce as least hurtful as possible.

Thus, Marital Counselling helps in making a marriage happy & last for ever.