Relationship
Counselling

Relationship is the plank of sexual indulgence.
 
The significance of relationship in life can not be overemphasized. If ever life has a meaning, it is a meaningful relationship. In youth, nothing seems sweeter than an intimate relationship. Nearer the sunset years of life, no amount of riches or materialistic gains seem to justify the meaning or the purpose of existence.

It is only a gratifying relationship you have or have had, the treasured memories of which you hold or reflect; makes your remaining life worth living. Without going into whether sex is the cause or the consequence of a good relationship, it would be prudent to understand that relationship for sure is at the core of sex. Sex tends to be mechanical without a healthy relationship.

There are times when people experience roadblocks in relationship. The issue at its face may look irresolvable or insurmountable.  More often than not, it is not because of the bad intentions on the part of the partners or due to the gravity of the problem. It is more because men, unlike women who are from Venus, would continue to be from Mars having different needs, and thereby the perspective, and thus the approach. It is also because of the different bringing up & perceived values of the partners.

So despite best intentions towards each other, their approaches may vary leading to conflicts. A faulty approach may be the result of lack of proper insight, clouding of vision, inadequate communication, miscommunication, misperception, preconceived or biased notions, grandisation of trivial issues, bloated egos etc. etc.; on part of one or both the partners. The affected parties usually fail to analyze the problem in an unbiased, logical fashion. Over a period if there have been frequent arguments, partners bring down shutters before their minds the moment a discussion starts or an argument breaks. Their minds become impervious.

Mind, as a result of preconceived thoughts, stops registering even if the partner wants to convey something new, different & logical. That is the time when relationship counselling becomes pertinent.

Incidentally, the counselors do not have any quick-fix or tailor made solutions of such problems. In fact counselors never offer solutions. With discreet & unobtrusive approach giving due respect to confidentiality, all that the counselors do, is to provide a conducive platform to the discorded couple where they are able to voice their concerns hitherto in mind, out in the open/aloud & thrash them out with the partners. Speaking the thoughts aloud makes their own vision clearer & also helps the other partner to understand & evaluate them.

Counselor without being judgemental, has the cut out task of ensuring free flowing but constructive communication so that the partners look at the controversial issues from other’s perspective. They encourage counselees to see problems from a practical angle. The effort of counselor is to empower counselees with the capability to analyze the problems themselves, realistically & rationally.

This empowerment helps them at that point of time & subsequently too, in overcoming such challenges on their own. Counselors by virtue of being specially trained professionals with neutrality & without bias, are better positioned to analyze the problems at the ground zero level & help sparring couple to iron out their differences.

Thus relationship counselling does help couples to see the flip side of the situation & help them resolve their issues & lead a harmonious life.

It is of utmost importance to understand that the two partners must try to resolve their differences on their own as for as possible. But before they approach counselors, they must exhaust all available options. However, seeking counselling if needed, should not be delayed so much as to make the reconciliation impossible.

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